Relationships require a lot of work. It takes time and effort to get things going the way you want and it’s most likely that you’d want it to go smoothly. Being in a relationship is a lot like dancing. You have a partner whom you’re with. One of you does the leading while the other follows. There’s a certain way to move but you have to know when to make those moves. If you make the wrong move and starting moving out of sync with the music, you’ll mess things up.
Like dancing, you have to know what you’re doing to make it work correctly. You have to know how to hold the girl in your arms in a way that makes her feel comfortable. You have to guide her and show her where she has to be when you’re moving. If the dance requires you to do a back flip and then spin a full 360 degrees, you want to be sure that she’s where she’s supposed to be when you come to a complete stop. There’s this whole routine that you go through but before you choreograph the moves, you have to know what you’re doing.
You don’t want to move the girl to move the way you do. You have to gently hold her in your arms and gracefully guide her along. If you’re gentle enough, she will follow your every move. But she’s not the only one that does the following. You have to follow her and make sure that she’s safe.
The dance floor can get very crowded so you have to watch out for her. If there’s another dance couple about to hit her, you have to be fast enough to spin her around and take the hit yourself. If you’re too busy concentrating on your foot work, you’re not going to see danger when it’s on a direct collision path with you. The foot work takes practice but once you’ve mastered it, you’ll be able to concentrate more on your surroundings rather where your foot should be at a certain beat. When you take your mind off the foot work, you’ll be able to hear the beat.
The longer you dance with someone, the more you’ll learn about their strengths and weaknesses. You applaud their strength and encourage them to continue to get better. A good guy will help his girl with her weaknesses rather than exploit them for his own advantage. Everyone struggles in something in life but that doesn’t mean that you put them down for not being good. When someone is struggling at something, you need to give then confidence and let them know that they can improve if they really try. If you try and exploit their weaknesses, you will slowly lose the other person’s trust. If you can’t trust your partner, the relationship will fail. It’s no fun dancing alone.
The reality of it all is that a girl wants a guy who knows what he’s doing. If you don’t know what you’re doing, what good are you? In order to be better at it, you need practice and as much of it as possible. When you’re on the dance floor, a girl will come up to you and dance with you because she’ll see that you’re good. Everyone wants to become better at something so if you can lead them in a dance, they will know that. No one wants to dance with someone who’s completely new at it. Everyone’s on the dance floor to have a good time and not to teach someone how to dance.