Where are you going?

I don’t know what is going on with my circle of friends but lately I’ve been noticing that they don’t do much. Back in high school, we all had dreams of growing up and becoming successful. We had talks about how we were going to be so busy with our families and career that we wouldn’t have time for each other. But taking a look at the situation now, nothing has changed. I use to think that everyone else changes but I stay the same. But the more I look at it, the more I see things stay the same as I start to change.

It was supposed to turn out like this. Right about now, my friends and I should be all settled down. Our lives should be on track and in sync with our dreams. We all had dreams of settling down with the perfect girl and starting a family. By this age, I pictured myself living on my own with a beautiful wife by my side. I even saw myself with a kid because I just adore them.

I dream of living in a big house, a big white house with a big yard. In that dream, I didn’t have an expensive car though. I just wanted a Honda Civic and nothing more. I dreamed of working with a big company and making a lot of money. With that money, I would buy my parents a big house as well. I would get a house with a big garage for my dad so he can keep all his tools and a big yard for my mom to do her gardening in.

These are all things that I dreamed and it was the path that I saw myself towards. This dream for me is slowly turning into reality has I start to move up in my career. I am going from job to job and gaining the experience I need to get the higher paying job. And one day, I’ll be able to get everything that I dreamed of.

But this dream of mine included my friends. We’re all supposed to have cars so we can meet up once a month and just recollect on the past. We were supposed to just go cruising around town and just hang out. But none of that is happening right now.

I have some friends who have graduated from high school but didn’t choose to continue their education. So they are limiting their career options. They can get jobs but these are just mediocre that will get them by. They live from pay cheque to pay cheque with nothing left to spend at the end of the month. This is not the life that they should be living. They should be doing a lot better than that.

Back in the day, instead of furthering their education, the only thing that was on their minds were partying and having fun. I was the black sheep of the group because I was always at home in front of the computer. Even on a Friday night, I would be surfing around on the internet or doing homework. While the rest of my friends were out having the time of their lives, I parked my ass at home. As much as I wanted to go out partying with them, I had other priorities ahead of me.

It was because of my thinking back then that I am where I am today. And at this moment, I don’t see myself as successful as I should be. There are still goals that I need to achieve before my life is complete. Slowly but surely, I’m getting there.

I’m not sure if I can say the same for my friends. To me, it seems like they don’t want to do anything. Most of them have so much free time that they don’t know what to do with it. I wished I had that much time to just do nothing but I don’t. I spend an hour on the road to get to work. I work the night shift for eight hours. I go home and sleep as the sun comes up. Eight hours later, I wake up as the sun goes down. And five hours later, I back on the road to work.

It doesn’t make sense to me that I’m the one who’s getting a lot of things accomplished. I only have five hours a day to get things done meanwhile the rest of my friends have the whole day. That’s a pretty tight schedule to get a lot of things done. If I am able to accomplish so much in so little time, why can’t they do it too?

I think the problem here is the lack of motivation. They continue what they’re doing because it feels right at the time. There’s no one around to tell them that what they’re doing is wrong. Or there’s no one around to push them to do better so they continue doing the same thing everyday. They sit around all day on the computer, playing multiplayer online games and they do this day in and day out. I can’t stay to play those types of games for more than a minute. All you’re doing is going around and clicking! I can see how that might be fun for a few minutes but I can’t see how they can continue doing this everyday for hours.

Most people would choose fun over work any day. I would too if I was given that option but I don’t like to make rash decision. I’ll go out and have fun once I get the work done. If it’s something important that needs to be completed because of an upcoming deadline, there’s a high probability that you’ll find me in front of the computer. I steer clear of computer games because they are too much of a distraction. The computer itself is a distraction because it’s connected to the internet. After years of practice, I can control my temptations and get my work done.

I’m just an average guy who’s capable of doing every day things so why can’t my friends get on the bandwagon and do the same. Everyday, all I hear is complaints after complaints. Rather than wasting their time complaining, they should just do something about it. They can complain all they want but that won’t do them any good.

There’s no time like the present. Carpe diem, people! Carpe diem! There’s no time to just sit around waiting for some kind of revelation to hit you. You need to make use of your days because every second that passes is a second that you won’t get back. It’s a valuable commodity that most of us take for granted. Time waits for no one so you shouldn’t waste it.

2 replies on “Where are you going?”

  1. Don, you say exactly what is on my mind. I wish I could be the motivation a certain someone, but you can’t be motivated by someone if you really aren’t motivated inside. =(

  2. I think that everyone can be motivated to some extent. There are factors involved in motivation. If you can find that key factor, you can motivate just about anyone.

    There are internal and external forces that can change one’s behaviour. If they can’t be motivated internally, then the external force will have to get the job done. It may sound like something hard to achieve but if you really want motivate someone, and you have the motivation to do it, that’s a start. Your eagerness to motivate might be contagious.

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