Mind your manners

These days, it’s rare that you see people who have manners. I make and effort to say “Please” and Thank you” no matter what the occasion is. If someone does something nice for me, I offer my gratitude. It’s the least I can do. When I ask for something, I make sure I say “Please.” I don’t see it happening as often as it use to.

There are certain ways for people to behave in public. Some chose to mind their manners while others are just down right rude. I eat out at fast food restaurants a lot and some of the customers are very inconsiderate and condescending. I see this happening a lot with the people who thinks they’re all big and stuff. You would know the type if you saw them. The ones that are all dressed up in dress pants with the shirt, tie and blazer. The ones that think they are more important that the cashier working at KFC because he’s higher up on the corporate ladder. Don’t get me wrong, some of the business guys who make a lot of money aren’t all snobby. Some of them are pretty cool. I think that the ones that are cool are the ones that don’t go around flaunting to the world that they’re making the big bucks.

When I was working for Rogers, a coworker had to speak with a guy that claims to be filthy rich. He was a month late on his cell phone bill so we called him to see if he had already sent in a payment for it. He told my coworker not to worry because he has the money to pay for it. He went into further details about how he owned a Dodge Viper. Apparently, this guy can afford a Viper, afford to pay for the gas it takes for a car like that and the cost of insurance but he can’t afford $45 bucks to pay for his monthly cell phone bill.

But it’s not just the rich people that don’t seem to have manners. Regular people are like that too. And there are more of them than there are rich people. When I’m talking out of the mall, I usually glance backwards me to see if anyone is behind me. I don’t want to walk out of the door knowing that someone was behind me and I didn’t bother to hold it open for them. If I see something walking behind me in close proximity, I wait a few seconds for them to get to the door so they won’t have to push it open. All that I expect in return is a simple “Thank you!” But some people will take hold of the door and just continue walking. To them, I say “You’re welcome!” That usually clicks in their head and they reply with a “Oh… thanks!” Once I hear that, I know I’ve done my job.

The elderly are the most well mannered people I know of. I cannot recall a time when they have not thanked me for helping out. There’s an elderly woman who’s always with her son. Her son looks to be in his early 50’s. He’s always pushing her around in the wheel chair. I see them a lot when I worked at the library. Every time they leave the library, I usually push the handicap button for them so the son doesn’t have to do it. I see them at the Tim Horton’s by my house once in a while. The son is usually sitting there reading the papers while the mom is eating something. As they leave, they have to go around because other people are sitting at the tables and they don’t want to bother them. As soon as I see them start to leave, I make my way to the door and hold it open for him. They son says “Thank you” and pushes his mom out the door. As they are leaving, I hear the mom say, “Isn’t that the young man from the library?” I see the son nod. That puts as smile on my face because it’s rare that I get recognized out of uniform.

I think I was raised to be polite which is why I’m this way now. Growing up, I realize that some people feel better when they hear nice things. Someone might be having a bad day but and everything surrounding them has the ability to affect their emotions. Something as little as a smile can help. When I’m walking through the mall and I make eye contact with a girl that I don’t know, the least I can do is smile to acknowledge that we’ve made eye contact. Not a lot of people know that a simple smile is best compliment you can give to others. A smile goes a long way.

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