Marriage

The family came back from camping yesterday, which was a bit of a surprise because I wasn’t expecting them back until today. It was the long weekend so I assumed that they would take full advantage of it. But I guess something must have come up for them to early a day early. We unpacked the van and then set up a barbeque to finish up what was left over from the trip. After that, I had to drive my grandma home. Every time I talk to my grandma, she’s always telling me about the girl from British Columbia. She really wants me to get married to this girl but I don’t think that’s going to happen. I know nothing about this girl and I’m not going to marry someone I don’t know.

During the drive to Stoney Creek, which is about ten to fifteen minutes from my house, my grandma just kept telling me about this girl. She asked if I’ve given her a call and when I replied that I haven’t, she got mad. I don’t know why. I’m not going to call up some girl at random out of the blue and start bonding with her. My grandma wants me to call the girl and start getting to know her. And when she moves here, we’ll get married. Married!?

It’s like I don’t get a say in any of this. It sounded like my grandma had already planned the wedding and everything. I’m not the type that likes to sit there and listen while someone tells me what to do. I’m more of the rebel type. Growing up, I would always do things that my parents didn’t agree with. If they told me to do something that I didn’t want to do, I would take my time doing it. When I work on things, I actually work on things. But if someone told me to do the exact same thing, I wouldn’t put much effort into it.

Marriage isn’t something that you’re supposed to rush into. If you do that, it’s not going to last. This is what my grandma wants. She wants me to meet with the girl and like marry in a short period of time. If the marriage is a rushed one then I’m afraid that it is not going to work out. When I get married, I don’t plan on getting a divorce because I don’t believe in divorces.

I was working late one night when one of the cleaners came into the office. She an older lady, Portuguese, I’m guessing her in mid 40’s. Usually we chit chat for a while because we have nothing else better to do. One night we somehow came across the topic of marriage. This is what she told me, “Live a happy life first and then worry about marriage. It takes time to build a long lasting relationship. But when you start, don’t just go out and find some beautiful girl. It is not the appearance that counts. It is what is on the inside that matters. They can be pretty on the outside but their heart can be rotten. There are some girls out there that are beautiful but they have coconuts for brains. You will end up working your whole life for her. In a good marriage, you help each other. She is not only your wife but also your best friend.”

She’s a smart one, this cleaner. She has a lot of wisdom when it comes to life. She tells me many things that gets me thinking. She has pretty much the same ideologies as I do. And she does have a point with what she told me about marriage. I don’t plan on rushing into it. I think I’m still too young to be married. There are a lot of things you need to factor in before you move on to that step. At the moment, I am not financially stable to be starting up a family. I’ve still have debts to pay off first. Once I get that part of my life straightened out, then I can worry about the next step.

Speaking of marriage, I just remembered that Jon and Kelly recently tied the knot a couple of days ago. Jon and Kelly are the hosts of the JaK Attack podcast. Congratulations to them! I wish them a long and joyous life together.

4 thoughts on “Marriage

  1. aww.. your granny just wants you to find someone so that you’re not stuck alone forever or whatever. But she just might not realize that it would be even worse if you were stuck with someone you couldn’t get along with. >.>

  2. So far, everytime she brings up some sort of marriage thing, I never have any say in the matter. I just smile and nod. I don’t want to say anything because it’s sorta rude to talk back.

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